Stop Being Bossy

Do you find yourself being too overbearing? Does no one want to be your partner in work or school projects because you tend to dominate everything? The following steps will help you get to the core of why you're so bossy in the first place, and how you can break the habit.

Let go of perfectionism. Sometimes we're bossy because we want things done right, and there's nothing wrong with striving for a job well done, is there? The thing is, there's more than one way to achieve a good result, and just because your way is the most efficient way to get from Point A to Point B doesn't mean it's the best way. By assuming your way is the best way, you lock out the creativity of others, and you also chip away at morale. Both of these things are limiting factors in the long run, and that's not a good result. Be patient. When you're used to being in the role of leader (or dictator or tyrant, in the eyes of others) it can be excruciating to step aside and wait for someone else to step up, and even more torturous to watch them fumble at a task that you can accomplish so quickly and easily. But what's the rush? Will it really be the end of the world if things don't go as smoothly as planned? Relax. Take a deep breath. Wait.

Invest in people. Many bossy people focus their attention on incompetence, and they fail to notice potential and progress. Try to be more alert to people's individual talents. Give positive feedback. Lots of it. Don't just see people as tools, as a means to an end, as machines. In order for people to think for themselves, they need to learn, and in order to learn, sometimes we need to make mistakes. Trust them, and give them a fair margin of error. Let them know that you're there to help, but don't watch over their shoulders or take over their tasks. Improve your communication skills. Many times it's not what you say that comes off as bossy, it's how you say it. Your tone and phrasing can make a person feel like an incompetent cog in a machine, or it can make them feel like you're inviting them to reach a worthwhile goal with you. Learn How to Practice Nonviolent Communication and How to Give a Feedback Sandwich.

Strive for consensus. Nothing fosters team-building like consensus-building. Even though it's more time-consuming than democratic voting (i.e. majority rules), the consensus process is more likely to result in all parties reaching common ground. You can be a facilitator, ensuring that everyone's opinion is heard, and that a decision is made that is satisfactory to everyone involved. Ask for honest feedback. Explain to people that you know you can come off as bossy or domineering sometimes, and you'd like to change your style. Ask them to let you know when you're coming off as bossy, whether by pulling you aside, or even by sending you an anonymous note or e-mail. Be humble and request their help.

Being bossy does not necessarily make you a good boss. Following the steps in How to Be a Good Boss does.In some cases, when you stop being bossy, you may find that people who once seemed to like you no longer do so. This is not because you are in any way less appealing, but simply because you do not frighten them any more. Give up bossiness at your own risk.

Heart Tag

This is given to me by David. This tag is very cute. And I appreciate David for passing me this tag.


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A# Attached or Single?
Attached Completely

B# Best Friend?
I used to have a best friend name Marites back home in Philippines.But I haven't heard from her in 7 years.So at the moment I don't really have any best friend but my hubby.

C# Cake or Pie?
Cake! No Pie! Hmm I like them both, I like peach pie. My favorite dessert of all is strawberry cheesecake. Hmmm Yummy!

D# Day of Choice?
Definitely Friday

E# Essential Item?
Kitchen Utensils LOL ,Laptop and cell phone I guess it's hard to live without 'em(LOL)

F# Favorite Color?
Burgundy, Dark Brown

G# Gummie Bears or Worms?
Definitely Gummy Bears

H# Hometown?
San Jose City, Nueva Ecija Philippines

I# Favorite Indulgence?
Never though of it yet. I'll get back with you on that.

J# January or July?
July because it's summer.

K# Kids?
I love them, got two of my own

L# Life isn't complete without....?
Love, good heart, trials so on and so fort.

M# Marriage date?
March 10

N# Number of magazine subscriptions?
None

O# Oranges or Apples?
I prepare orange, there is only kind of apple I like which is golden delicious.

P# Phobias?
Car accident, I most of the time don't like riding on someone Else's car unless I am the one who's driving.

Q# Quotes?
“Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.”

R# Reasons to smile?
The reason to smile is life and family. God gave me reason to smile because he has given me another day to see the light and able to see what tomorrow will bring.

S# Season of choice?
Got two season choice:Fall, love those color changing tree leaves and Summer.. hey so that I can wear those summer clothes (LOL)

T# Tag five people.
Cecile, Maria, Imelda,Msray and Dhemz

U# Unknown fact about me?
I love anchovies on my pizza and I twirl my hair when I get nervous.

V# Vegetable?
Nope I am not, love meat :)

W# Worst habit?
I would say keeping things in the way I want it.

X# X-Ray or Ultrasound?
Both, it defend what's wrong with me (lol)

Y# Your favorite foods?
Oh my gosh....Chicken chow mien and Pinakbet (Filipino food), I don't know what you call it in English.

Z# Zodiac sign
Virgo