Hold Back Tears

Saturday, May 17, 2008

Are you embarrassed or harrassed when you cry?

Try not to think what it causing the pain.Think other things,# for example a time when you were having a good time with your family and friends.
Walk away from the situation before you start to cry.
Hold your eyes open wide and don't blink very often. It is easier to keep the tears from starting than it is to stop them after they begin to fall.
While not moving your head, look up with your eyes. It is almost impossible to cry when you do this.
# Pinch yourself somewhere or gently bite your tongue with your teeth to re-direct your attention to a localized, controllable physical pain.
Widen your focus to include a bird's eye view of the situation, and see that it's just a small event amongst everything that is going on in the whole world and it will soon pass.
Do give yourself time privately to cry about this specific trigger as well as generalized feelings of sadness or fear that you may have. If you are all bottled-up, you will likely be more prone to crying in public or in situations where you would rather not cry.
Sometimes people don't know that they are hurting you. If you don't let them know by crying, let them know in some other way or stay out of this type of situation if you can.
Make sure you need to hold back tears in a given situation. Keeping a "stiff upper lip" out of vanity or stubbornness can be exhausting. Letting people see that you are human can make relationships closer and help others feel more connected to and empathetic with you.

If you don't want people to see that you are about to cry just put your head down and think of something good in your mind.
Don't let the pain or emotional effects get to you.
If your tears are already coming down your face tell the person that made you cry you are crying because you're mad at what she did or said, not because of the pain.
Try and name things around you in your head such as colors of objects to quickly take your mind off it.


PERSONAL tips:If you gotta cry then you gotta cry. It is all right to cry. It just shows you have feelings. In some situations, the person who cries is stronger than the person who doesn't.
Thoughts of suicide or self harm are not positive methods of redirecting your emotional pain. Try to remember that in the end, things will work out. If these thoughts persist, seek the professional advice of a doctor or counselor.

Boost Your Fertility

Pregnancy may seem like the most natural biological process in the world, but it doesn't come all that naturally for some. Estimated 12 percent of American women (7.3 million) have difficulty getting pregnant or carrying a baby to term.



If you've been trying to conceive for months with no luck, you may feel like giving up. But there's no need to throw in the towel just yet. The National Women's Health Information Center reports that two-thirds of infertile couples successfully conceive after seeking treatment. In addition, the following tips may help boost your odds.

Raise your level of self-awareness. While sperm can survive in the womb for up to five days, the egg is only viable for 24 to 36 hours, so knowing when that ovulation window opens is the key to conception. You can become well acquainted with your menstrual cycle if you keep written track of it for a few months. An egg drops about two weeks before the start of your period, so to pinpoint the height of your fertility each month, you should maintain a record of your daily basal thermometer readings; a slight rise in body temperature indicates that you are ovulating.

Give up any vices. If you smoke, it's imperative that you quit-and the same goes for your partner. Women undergoing fertility treatments who smoked or lived with a smoker had much less success with getting pregnant than their smoke-free counterparts. Consumption of five or more alcoholic beverages a week can affect fertility .

Eat more zinc. Upping your intake of zinc facilitates not only ovulation in women, but also semen production in men, according to the American Pregnancy Association, which recommends a daily allowance of 15 milligrams. Folic acid is also a necessary dietary component for both sexes .

4. Keep an eye on your BMI. Make like Goldilocks, and aim for the BMI that's just right for you (your doctor can help you determine this). In a recent issue of Alternative Medicine Review, researchers reported that just a 5 percent reduction in weight among obese women suffering from polycystic ovary syndrome resulted in an 82 percent reversal of ovary dysfunction. On the flip side, scientists have also found that a low BMI can compromise the hormone levels required to sustain a successful pregnancy.

5. Treat your mind as well as your body. Using stress-reduction techniques, such as yoga, to improve fertility. 34 percent of participants became pregnant within six months of completing the program. Women undergoing in vitro fertilization treatments can increase their chances of conceiving with acupuncture.

Worst Workplace Behaviours

Friday, May 16, 2008

Sexual harassment, profanity, and absenteeism were probably all covered in your company orientation. But chances are, a few egregious behaviors-like gossiping and bullying-didn't make their way into the employee handbook. Even so, these missteps might be grounds for immediate dismissalon .

Gossiping. You may think of it as idle chatter, but engaging in juicy watercooler conversations could be risky business. Gossip can reduce productivity, alienate employees, and break down trust within teams. In some cases, the office rumor mill could even earn you a pink slip.

2. Sharing too much information (TMI). Among friends and family, your life may be an open book, but revealing too much information at work could be an instant career-buster. This is especially true when it comes to personal medical issues, family secrets, or relationship problems. And don't even think about sharing the details of your intimate encounters-remember, although you may be friendly with your coworkers, it's always important to maintain a professional demeanor on the job.

3. Chronic lateness. When it comes to getting to work on time, you may think "better late than never," but your employer probably feels differently. More than $3 billion each year in lost productivity. And the effect on the bottom line is significant: An employee who's 10 minutes late every day has, by the end of the year, taken the equivalent of an entire week's paid vacation.

4. Forwarding SPAM. Whether it's a chain letter that promises to bring good luck or a YouTube video of silly pet tricks, it's not appropriate office communication. Nowadays, there's email overload in virtually any workplace, and forwarding SPAM to your colleagues will probably just annoy them. Plus, your boss may be watching: Nearly 62 percent of employers exercise their legal right to monitor employees' email.

5. Wardrobe malfunctions. These days, lots of office dress codes are business casual-but that doesn't mean anything goes. In a recent U.K. study, employers were asked which habit they found most annoying among employees, and more than 25 percent responded that it was unsuitable clothing or appearance. Moreover, nearly 40 percent of managers said they thought workers appeared too casual when dressing down.

6. Being a cell-phone addict. Mobile phones are invaluable devices for touching base, making plans, and averting catastrophes. But at work, you should be focused on the job at hand-not chatting with Mom from your cubicle. The problem is, some cell users are so addicted that they duck out of meetings to answer their phones or send text messages. Instead, turn off the ringer from nine to five, and if you must talk on the phone, do it from a private area.

7. Bullying. As it turns out, bullying isn't just found in schoolyards. A growing body of research suggests that intimidation and abuse run rampant in the workplace. On-the-job bullying can be defined as "repeated, health-harming mistreatment" that may include verbal abuse, offensive conduct, or sabotage. Although historically, workplace harassment guidelines are limited to guarding against sexual and racial discrimination, since 2003, 13 states have introduced some version of the Healthy Workplace Bill to address status-independent harassment.

Everyday sprituality exercises

Thursday, May 15, 2008

You may think spirituality only mean being religious, but it's really a much broader concept. Almost everyday experiences spirituality. Some people experience it in religious service on in other belief systems, but spirituality can be found almost anywhere, in nature, music , art or philosophy. it applies to your belief about the connection you create with your self and others, and how you express your values in your search for meaning in your life.
Having a feeling of spiritual well-being can improve your health and help you cope with stress, some search has found. Try to experience some spiritual time everyday with these ideas.

Sit alone quietly.Then pray, meditate or use relaxation techniques to help focus your thoughts.

Add moment to focused self-awareness to your day. For example, pause to be grateful for the friends you have or the nature around you.
While you're stuck in traffic, deliberately think about your loved ones or count your blessing.

Read inspirational stories or essays.

Be friendly and courteous to the people around you.

Focus on your surroundings without thinking or judging;just attempt to be apart of the environment.

If you're wondering about your own sense of spirituality, try to remember the places or experiences that give you comfort, hope meaning or purpose in life

Stressed? Take a Deep Breath

Stress affects all of us.But diaphragmatic and breathing, a deep -breathing technique can help you work through it.

Diaphragmatic breathing doesn't come naturally, so you should practice it for optimal benefit.

Get Comfortable . Wear loss-fitting clothing, and sit or lie on your back with your eyes closed.

Breath Deeply and slowly, using your diaphragm
Feel your abdomen and not your chest, move with each breath. Place a paperback book on your abdomen. When you breath, the book should rise; when you breath out, the book should go down.

Concentrate . Focus on how you feel as the air passes through your nose or mouth then into and out of your lungs.

Visualize . Each time you inhale, visualize fresh, clean air circulating though your body. When you exhale, visualize your stress and tension being released.

Effects Of excessive Alcohol

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Some men may think that being able to "hold your liquor" i s a sign of masculinity. But this is false. Excessive alcohol use can have profoundly negatives effect on your health over all well-being.

Excessive alcohol use can cause:

Injury and Death: Men are more likely to cause a drunk-driving death than women.
Excessive alcohol use also increase the risk of suicide or assaulting other person.

Sexual dysfunction or disease: Excessive alcohol use can result in impotence and infertility. It can also increase your risk of contracting a sexual transmitted disease.

Cancer: Heavy drinking increases your risk of developing cancer of the mouth, throat, esophagus or liver.

Alcoholism: In general , men are more likely to became dependent on or abuse alcohol than women.

Binge Drinking- having five or more drinks within a couple of hours- also is dangerous for men. It's associated with injuries, alcohol poisoning, heart attack, neurological damage, high blood pressure, poor diabetes and sexual dysfunction.

How To be a Positive Influence

Monday, May 12, 2008

Optimism and a positive attitude are contagious. Those who exude a positive attitude provide inspiration and motivations to others.

Be approachable. Open yourself up to serving as a mentors to others.
Practice a positive a body language. During a conversations, smile, establish eye contact and nod attentively. Avoid standing with your arms cross in front of you.
Encourage Others to develop their strenght and follow their dreams.
Invite Others Input. When working with group , ask for opinions and suggestions.
laugh. Keep a sense of humor.
Say Thank You often with sincerity.
Be a cheerleader. When a friend or family member does something well, tell them and tell others.
Persevere. When you encounter a obstacles, don't give up. Adopt a positive attitude and keep going.