There are few things in life that are harder on a person than the time when they realize that the love they have worked so hard at, and spent so much time on, is finally over. For some, this realization is a complete shock and for others, they have seen the writing on the wall for some time now.
Breakup signs are often very difficult to spot, primarily because the people involved often do not want to admit that the relationship has failed. And unless something comes along and hits them in the face, telling them it's over; the natural tendency is to try to work through the problems. This happens more so when the couple have been together for a while.
The question that remains, therefore, is at what point do you really know that it's over?
First lets start with the glaring signs that the relationship is over:
You catch your partner in the act of having an unforgivable affair.
Your partner uses physical violence against you.
You argue non-stop about everything. You can't agree on anything.
The above are obvious, any of the three things occurring above, ESPECIALLY NUMBER TWO, are sure signs that the relationship is coming to an, often abrupt, end.
There are however some other signs to look out for. Sometimes it is necessary to accept the painful fact that the relationship you are in is just not good for you. While I am usually the staunchest advocate for the "you can make it through anything as long as you have love" club, even I have to admit that there are situations where one or both of the partners are just better off apart.
The most common instance of this is when one partner is INTENTIALLY holding the other partner back. When two people have separate dreams and goals, friction can occur, especially if neither of them are willing to compromise. In some instances, however, jealousy leads one of the partner's to be excessively controlling of the other. In these situations, if they are UNRESOLVABLE, it is better to leave than stay.
Other reasons to leave include:
You realize that you don't love your partner.
You find yourself thinking more and more about how good single life was.
You realize that your partner doesn't love you, but is with you because they don't want to hurt you.
You have no common interests or goals.
You find that you cannot stand their annoying little habits, and they won't change.
You find it impossible to be yourself around your partner.
Your partner cuts you down, makes you feel bad about yourself, and constantly devalues your goals and ideas.
Under no circumstances should anyone stay in a relationship that is bad for them, just because they feel that being in a relationship, even a bad one, is better than being alone.
How To Know When Is It over
Wednesday, April 30, 2008
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The Worst Health Tips Ever
Earlier I posted about the best health tips. Now Let talked about the " The worst health tips ever" .
At best, these common suggestions are ineffective; in some cases, they may even be dangerous.
Get a healthy tan. We've all heard the expression "healthy tan," UV exposure is anything but healthy. In fact, any amount of suntanning represents skin damage on the cellular level and, over time, could result in premature aging or even cancerous tumors. Avoiding UV exposure completely during high-intensity hours, wearing protective clothing, and if you must expose your skin to the sun, using a broad-spectrum sunscreen with an SPF of at least 15.
Put butter on a burn. Not only does butter hold heat in (exactly the opposite of what you want to achieve when you have a burn); it could cause infection by exposing your body to foreign proteins. If you've suffered a burn and your skin is numb, blistering, or white, you may have the second- or third-degree type, in which case it's important to seek medical attention immediately. If your skin is red but still feels normal, chances are, you have a first-degree burn; in this case, run cold water on the affected area for about 10 minutes, then apply an over-the-counter antibiotic.
Don't read in the dark. It might not be the easiest way to read and could cause your eyes to feel tired, but there's no scientific evidence that reading in dim light can damage your vision. The same rule applies to other vision-related myths, such as sitting too close to the TV and looking at the computer for too long. As experts explain, there are very few ways in which overuse can hurt your eyesight. One notable exception is staring at the sun, which can cause serious damage to your cornea, lens, and retina.
Stop pulling out gray hairs. Contrary to popular belief, pulling out one gray hair won't cause two more to grow in its place. Instead, the original strand will simply be replaced by a single gray hair, so pulling them out won't speed (or slow) the process. Along these lines, a shocking event can't cause you to go gray overnight-or any more quickly than you naturally would.
Feed a cold, starve a fever. This old adage doesn't hold much scientific weight. Although it's always important to get your nutrients, feeding yourself won't make a virus run its course faster, and starving yourself is never a good idea, especially when you're sick. If you have a cold or a fever, the best plan of action is to rest, drink plenty of fluids, and if your symptoms don't improve, seek medical attention.
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The Best tHealth tips ever
When it comes to health, good advice abounds. But there are also lots of misconceptions, silly old wives' tales, and even dangerous ideas about everything from UV exposure to treating a common cold. Which suggestions should you follow, and which ones should you kick to the curb?
These classic pieces of advice can reduce your disease risk, boost your health, and even increase your life span.
Best Health Tips
* Eat your breakfast. Women who ate breakfast every day were less likely to become overweight or obese than those who skipped it. What's more, the women who ate breakfast had significantly lower total and LDL cholesterol levels, as well as better insulin response to eating, which suggests a lower diabetes risk.
* Just do it. Physical activity offers a host of benefits, from maintaining an optimal weight to preventing heart disease, diabetes, osteoporosis, and certain types of cancer. In addition, fitness can boost your mental health: Exercise a week can make a big difference.
* Make friends. Elderly people who have a strong network of friends and acquaintances are likely to live longer than those who have fewer friends. The researchers believe that friendships encourage people to look after their health and help to reduce feelings of depression and anxiety.
* Read a book. Alzheimer's disease is less common in college graduates, and scientists believe it's because higher education encourages people to read. Activities like reading and solving crossword puzzles stimulate the regeneration of nerve endings in the brain.
* Look on the bright side. Optimistic people are 50 percent less likely to experience early death than pessimists. According to the researchers, those with a positive outlook are generally less stressed, are better equipped to deal with adversity, and have lower blood pressure.
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