Are you embarrassed or harrassed when you cry?
Try not to think what it causing the pain.Think other things,# for example a time when you were having a good time with your family and friends.
Walk away from the situation before you start to cry.
Hold your eyes open wide and don't blink very often. It is easier to keep the tears from starting than it is to stop them after they begin to fall.
While not moving your head, look up with your eyes. It is almost impossible to cry when you do this.
# Pinch yourself somewhere or gently bite your tongue with your teeth to re-direct your attention to a localized, controllable physical pain.
Widen your focus to include a bird's eye view of the situation, and see that it's just a small event amongst everything that is going on in the whole world and it will soon pass.
Do give yourself time privately to cry about this specific trigger as well as generalized feelings of sadness or fear that you may have. If you are all bottled-up, you will likely be more prone to crying in public or in situations where you would rather not cry.
Sometimes people don't know that they are hurting you. If you don't let them know by crying, let them know in some other way or stay out of this type of situation if you can.
Make sure you need to hold back tears in a given situation. Keeping a "stiff upper lip" out of vanity or stubbornness can be exhausting. Letting people see that you are human can make relationships closer and help others feel more connected to and empathetic with you.
If you don't want people to see that you are about to cry just put your head down and think of something good in your mind.
Don't let the pain or emotional effects get to you.
If your tears are already coming down your face tell the person that made you cry you are crying because you're mad at what she did or said, not because of the pain.
Try and name things around you in your head such as colors of objects to quickly take your mind off it.
PERSONAL tips:If you gotta cry then you gotta cry. It is all right to cry. It just shows you have feelings. In some situations, the person who cries is stronger than the person who doesn't.
Thoughts of suicide or self harm are not positive methods of redirecting your emotional pain. Try to remember that in the end, things will work out. If these thoughts persist, seek the professional advice of a doctor or counselor.
Hold Back Tears
Saturday, May 17, 2008
Are you embarrassed or harrassed when you cry?
Posted by Jane at 3:36 PM
Writing about your regrets, feelings, and frustrations can help understand why you did what you did and how you can learn from your mistakes.
Talking to a trusted friend or family member can also help you identify fallacies in your thinking and give you the opportunity to sort through your feelings instead of merely experiencing them inside yourself.
Visualize yourself acting and doing things as you move forward and leave your regrets behind.
Seek out support groups or a counselor in order to discover how you can get relief from regret and guilt.
Keep your situation in perspective. Remember that anything you've done is totally forgivable, even though it may seem unforgivable to you.
Take comfort in knowing that we've all made really huge mistakes! You're not alone. If you only knew all the skeletons in people's closets, you'd know that we all do things we seriously regret at times. But, this too will pass (as they say).
Should all else fail and leave you lacking the will to attempt anything ever again, just leave everything behind. Make everyday a new beginning of your life, and past mistakes mere handicaps that you are born with. Your focus from now wo
Posted by Jane at 3:32 PM
There is no such thing as a life without any regrets. However, regrets can become either burdens that interfere with your present happiness and restrict your future, or motivation to move forward. If you find yourself overcome by regrets, here are some steps that should help you integrate them.
Determine what your regret really is. Do you regret something you did or Something you didn't do? Something someone else did or did not do? A circumstance beyond your control? It is important to step back from the feelings of regret and identify exactly what the regret is.
Ask for forgiveness and make amends. Apologize for any harm you may have caused others. Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Be compassionate toward everyone involved.
Accept the circumstances. Avoid blaming others but rather take responsibility for anything that you could have better handled.
Deal with toxic relationships. Sometimes other people cause us to do things that leave us with serious regrets. Do you have a toxic relationship that needs to be addressed or severed?
Grieve for your regrets. When we feel regret, we relive guilt, sadness or anger over and over again. Allowing yourself to experience these feelings fully with the intention of moving forward can help you stop revisiting them.
Recognize what you have learned or gained. When you find yourself thinking of the regret, turn your thoughts to the things you have learned and the opportunities that are now yours - even if they are not what you would have preferred. There is always a lesson even in pain and sadness. Look for the lesson and focus on it instead of what might have been.
Write out a plan or agreement for yourself that identifies how you could avoid having this sort of regret in the future.
Posted by Jane at 3:06 PM
Pregnancy may seem like the most natural biological process in the world, but it doesn't come all that naturally for some. Estimated 12 percent of American women (7.3 million) have difficulty getting pregnant or carrying a baby to term.
If you've been trying to conceive for months with no luck, you may feel like giving up. But there's no need to throw in the towel just yet. The National Women's Health Information Center reports that two-thirds of infertile couples successfully conceive after seeking treatment. In addition, the following tips may help boost your odds.
Raise your level of self-awareness. While sperm can survive in the womb for up to five days, the egg is only viable for 24 to 36 hours, so knowing when that ovulation window opens is the key to conception. You can become well acquainted with your menstrual cycle if you keep written track of it for a few months. An egg drops about two weeks before the start of your period, so to pinpoint the height of your fertility each month, you should maintain a record of your daily basal thermometer readings; a slight rise in body temperature indicates that you are ovulating.
Give up any vices. If you smoke, it's imperative that you quit-and the same goes for your partner. Women undergoing fertility treatments who smoked or lived with a smoker had much less success with getting pregnant than their smoke-free counterparts. Consumption of five or more alcoholic beverages a week can affect fertility .
Eat more zinc. Upping your intake of zinc facilitates not only ovulation in women, but also semen production in men, according to the American Pregnancy Association, which recommends a daily allowance of 15 milligrams. Folic acid is also a necessary dietary component for both sexes .
4. Keep an eye on your BMI. Make like Goldilocks, and aim for the BMI that's just right for you (your doctor can help you determine this). In a recent issue of Alternative Medicine Review, researchers reported that just a 5 percent reduction in weight among obese women suffering from polycystic ovary syndrome resulted in an 82 percent reversal of ovary dysfunction. On the flip side, scientists have also found that a low BMI can compromise the hormone levels required to sustain a successful pregnancy.
5. Treat your mind as well as your body. Using stress-reduction techniques, such as yoga, to improve fertility. 34 percent of participants became pregnant within six months of completing the program. Women undergoing in vitro fertilization treatments can increase their chances of conceiving with acupuncture.
Posted by Jane at 2:00 PM