Do not go on a Date

* Do not go on any dates with the person from whom you are trying to heal. This is not productive and will not lead to healing. There is no more closure. There is only healing.
* When trying to heal do not accept phone calls and exchange flirty emails with the former object of your desire. This is also not productive and will only prolong the healing process.
* You are not healing from the broken heart your sweetie caused, to become more attractive to that person or to win that person back. When you catch yourself in this thought process, eat ice cream. (Note: Ice cream can be substituted for long walks or long swims or rough games of squash or R-ball) but in no way is anything you are doing targeted to get that person back. There is no getting back. The point is to get forward.
* Tell your friends once about your heartbreaking loss. If you cannot confine the discussion with your friends to one instance, confine the time spent discussing the gory details to no more than 1 hour actual time. You will need your friends later, so best to not wear out your welcome with them.
* Do not eat too much, drink too much or do drugs to get over your broken heart, unless of course that is how you always act, in which case it is important to remember that a lot of things change in 2 years. If you can change your ideal of self-honesty and acceptance in those next two years for the better, then you will have better odds of finding someone who will want what you want at the same time as you want it. It's all about timing really.
* It really helps if you have good friends who can watch over you and prevent you from doing and/or saying something that you will end up regretting!