Get a Coworker to Respect Your Personal Space

How much personal space an individual needs is just that: personal. However, workplace rules are *very* clear about touching.

1. Keep in mind that some people find touching to be a valid form of expression, a means of connection. It is probably how they talk to their friends and family. If it's not inappropriate (a tap on the shoulder, a pat on the back) and if it's not bothering you, you may choose to do nothing.
2. Back away. Scoot over, back up, or stand aside. Body language may or may not work, but if the coworker takes the hint it's a quick, easy way to communicate your displeasure.
3. Ask the person who is touching you to stop. Explain that you are uncomfortable with being touched. You shouldn't make a scene at your workplace, but do be clear and firm. It may take a while for them to break the habit. Continue to remind them if they continue to do it. To say "No" is absolutely acceptable and appropriate.
4. Document the 'no touching' conversation and any following touching. After several incidents, bring it up to your manager or speak to the Area Program Manager. Bring your documentation, and let them deal with the person.

Don't be afraid of speaking out or looking like "the bad guy." Remember, be firm, but polite. There are people who see touch as a means of communication. Don't go straight to 'He/She is molesting me!' Think it over and decide if there is a sexual component to the contact. Keep in mind, there are people who are hard of hearing and need to stand closer in order to hear you and don't realize they're in "your space".Think about how you interact with the other person, too. While you're not necessarily to blame for another's unwanted approaches, don't do anything that might invite them. For instance, don't show off your tattoos if your tattoos are not visible when you are wearing appropriate clothing. Sometimes, an invasion of personal space is nothing more than standing too close. Especially if you are shorter than the other person, this can be intimidating. Again, start by backing away, asking, and reminding, and proceed to a more formal complaints.

Retaliating against co-worker touching could hurt your job. Keep your complaints on a professional level and do not share with your entire staff. Keep it confidential within the proper management. If you have asked that a behavior stop and it has not stopped, and especially if you feel that it is inappropriate, tell your manager right away.