Hold Back Tears

Are you embarrassed or harrassed when you cry?

Try not to think what it causing the pain.Think other things,# for example a time when you were having a good time with your family and friends.
Walk away from the situation before you start to cry.
Hold your eyes open wide and don't blink very often. It is easier to keep the tears from starting than it is to stop them after they begin to fall.
While not moving your head, look up with your eyes. It is almost impossible to cry when you do this.
# Pinch yourself somewhere or gently bite your tongue with your teeth to re-direct your attention to a localized, controllable physical pain.
Widen your focus to include a bird's eye view of the situation, and see that it's just a small event amongst everything that is going on in the whole world and it will soon pass.
Do give yourself time privately to cry about this specific trigger as well as generalized feelings of sadness or fear that you may have. If you are all bottled-up, you will likely be more prone to crying in public or in situations where you would rather not cry.
Sometimes people don't know that they are hurting you. If you don't let them know by crying, let them know in some other way or stay out of this type of situation if you can.
Make sure you need to hold back tears in a given situation. Keeping a "stiff upper lip" out of vanity or stubbornness can be exhausting. Letting people see that you are human can make relationships closer and help others feel more connected to and empathetic with you.

If you don't want people to see that you are about to cry just put your head down and think of something good in your mind.
Don't let the pain or emotional effects get to you.
If your tears are already coming down your face tell the person that made you cry you are crying because you're mad at what she did or said, not because of the pain.
Try and name things around you in your head such as colors of objects to quickly take your mind off it.


PERSONAL tips:If you gotta cry then you gotta cry. It is all right to cry. It just shows you have feelings. In some situations, the person who cries is stronger than the person who doesn't.
Thoughts of suicide or self harm are not positive methods of redirecting your emotional pain. Try to remember that in the end, things will work out. If these thoughts persist, seek the professional advice of a doctor or counselor.