Wonder why your emotions control you, instead of the other way around? Emotions are reflections of individual needs. With some work, you can get your life back in order.
Change the cause of emotion. Fix the thoughts, fix the emotions. Circumstances do not cause emotions – rather, your thoughts and attitudes about those circumstances do. the only exception is when emotion is driven by a physical chemical imbalance in the brain, which can be identified and treated effectively with medication.
Realize that thought is not the same as logic. Logic is a system for reasoning, and reasoning is what you do with your thoughts. You may be brilliant at handling your thoughts, but what thoughts are you handling? Even if your thoughts are accurate, processing a dozen facts about a situation may well lead to error if you are unaware that an additional 99 facts are relevant.
Recognize that you have the right to have whatever feelings—and any emotion—you want to have. But you also have the right (and responsibility) to select and use thoughts that benefit and enrich your life, and those around you.
Re-think your attitudes about your circumstances—change your thoughts—and you will significantly change your feelings and emotions (at least enough to positively affect your daily life).
Increase your awareness of and look out for moments when you feel an irrational thought or attitude coming on. Recognize and identify that emotion, then ask yourself, “Where’s the proof in that?"or “What evidence do I have that validates this feeling?" Then use all of the knowledge, tools, and evidence at your disposal, and your best judgment to behave appropriately – to do otherwise cheats you.
Choose the right time and the right place to express your emotion. Controlling your emotions doesn't mean ignoring them. It means you recognize them and act on them when you deem it appropriate, not randomly and uncontrollably.
Cultivate mindfulness

Secret You should Never Share

You can't stand your spouse's family. You make more money than your coworker. You've been sleeping with your boss for months. It's often said that honesty is the best policy, but by spilling certain secrets, you could be opening a Pandora's box. Which innermost thoughts, if revealed, could jeopardize your relationship?

Sharing these shockers with your officemates could be considered indecent exposure.

You make more money than others. Although some progressive labor experts believe in compensation transparency, most companies don't look favorably on employees who swap information about their salaries. In fact, sharing information about your income with a coworker could lead to feelings of inequity, conflicts with management, and even decreased productivity.

You're looking for a new job. Trying to find a new job can be stressful and time-consuming, but whatever you do, don't alert your current employer or fellow employees about your plans. They could choose to replace you before you find a new position. Along these lines, avoid scheduling interviews during work hours, and never use the office email or fax machine to circulate your résumé.

You're sleeping with your boss.Roughly 40 percent of employees have engaged in an office romance at some point in their careers. But a tryst between a superior and a subordinate can be grounds for dismissal. A better course of action? Don't engage in a romantic relationship with your boss, and if you do, definitely don't talk about it.

How To fall Out Of LoveWith Someone

Are you the victim of cruel fate? Does the "perfect" mate think you are just "cool?" Although it might feel like you'll never find somebody better, there are some ways you can move on...
Realize you are worth someone who loves you. You are worth someone who thinks you are beautiful and awesome. It's always flattering to have an admirer, but you deserve better than to just be somebody's ego boost.
See their faults. Nobody is perfect. The longer you hold on to the idea that this person is perfect, the harder it'll be to get on with your life. It's completely possible that you're idealizing someone just so that you can have a fantasy to hold on to. You should accept that this person is not perfect, and definitely not perfect for you -- because the perfect person for you would think as highly of you as you do of them.
Distance yourself. You won't want to, but staying close to someone you want but can't have just isn't healthy. Don't tell the person or anyone close to them what you are doing, as they might try to convince you otherwise. Just try to get away for a while. Don't call them, don't go places where you know they frequent, and make yourself scarce. Take the time to reflect on your situation and learn more about yourself.
Date. While you are distancing yourself from said object of affection, try to meet people that you like. Don't settle for whomever asks you out, or you might end up making someone fall in love with you whom you don't love back! Approach people, try new things. You might want to compare everyone to the object of your affection, and you won't think anyone measures up. Stop this right now. You know there's someone better out there. Go find him or her!
Do whatever you can to feel better about yourself. Exercise, eat well, take a class, meet people, go to parties, have fun. Life is too short to spend it pining for someone who doesn't see you for the great person you are! There are those out there who will.
Try behavioral conditioning similar to a Pavlov's dog's response. Every time you obsess over this person try thinking about something repulsive. Pretty soon, you will start associating this person with repulsion, so that eventually the person's name will invoke disgust.

Things You'll Need to Do after the Break Up

You can do it without the following items, but they are highly recommended for the most rewarding (yes, really!) experience possible:
A few shoulders to cry on. It really does help to talk about it, preferably to more than just one person (if only to give your best friend some relief).
A Teddy Bear (for hugs and to talk to at 4am when everyone else is asleep.) Dogs and cats will do too, although pets may not always give you quite that loving sympathetic gaze and undivided attention that bears are so good at.
Hot showers (As much as you may not even want to get out of bed, much less get in the shower - *sniffle* "who cares if I wash my hair now, anyway?" - you will feel better after a shower, or a nice long soak in the tub. Hot water relaxes tense muscles, soothes anxiety and refreshes puffy, tear-stained faces.
Paper and pens (a journal is perfect, paints and glue and other illustration tools, even better!)
Funny movies and absorbing novels can be a great temporary respite and laughter can really lighten your mood.
If you're one of the millions who try to fill that empty sad feeling through your mouth (which usually doesn't work because food isn't what you're missing), fill the fridge with celery sticks and other light snacks that you won't regret later if you just have to munch.
Do be sure to eat though! Heartbreak can often rob you of your appetite, but be sure not to to punish yourself and remember to think about you as you are the most important person now. Being ill from malnutrition won't help you be strong enough to move on.
Your sense of humor and your knowledge that "this too shall pass".
Lots of tissues.
Friends and family are supportive for some people, and if they are they will do anything and everything to help you heal and be happy again. Go with them, even if you don't feel like it - you won't regret it. If you have unsupportive people in your life, you need to seek support elsewhere.

Follow Your Dream

Ever thought about becoming someone? Opening a soft furnishing shop,training as a counselor.Writing for the local paper? All of us have dreams, yet few to pursue them. Going after the dream can feel so daunting it's often easier to have the fantasy than to live it. Here is my thinking, i don't want to get to 80 and look back at my life and think : I wish I had.. i want to know I'd lived all the life I'd been givin whatever that means ... So what are your dream?