If you are looking to save your marriage then here are some tips to help you communicate with your partner. Arm yourself with four “tools”: time, an understanding attitude, patience, and empathy.
Schedule some time to be spent only with your partner everyday to maintain a strong bond.
Give complete attention to your partner, whether chatting or resolving an issue.
Listen to your partner without any interruptions. Maintain eye contact and keep an open mind. Grasp the expressed feelings along with the words. Facial expressions, tone of voice, body language, and words – all of these matter.
Make a careful choice of words while communicating to avoid any misunderstandings.
Don’t get carried away with emotions while communicating.
Instead of blowing your lid off in front of your partner, vent your anger on a piece of paper. Sometimes, we do regret later what we had said in a fit of anger.
7. Keep the positive aspects in the spot light rather than the negative ones.
You don’t like a particular habit of your partner, for example, throwing a wet towel on the bed. Don’t start with “I hate it when you…” instead, say, “I really like it when I see you hanging your towel on towel-stand!”
If you don’t like a particular dress on your partner, instead of saying, “you look fat/bad in this dress”, say, “why don’t you wear the ‘so and so’ dress? It looks sexier on you than this one!”
It is said – the best way to win an argument is to avoid it. How true! When you feel the discussion is getting heated up, withdraw.
Shouting, screaming, crying are the worst ways of communicating your feelings. They only leave your partner feeling hurt, confused, or even a failure.
Never dig out past conflicts, no matter how tempted you are.
Don’t hesitate in saying “I am sorry.” These are the wonder words that make your partner lose all anger. In fact, it leaves no room for further debate.
Stop blaming each other. If you think, “I can save my marriage by putting all the blame on my partner”, you are harboring an absurd idea in your mind.
Taunting, scorning, commenting, and teasing are not the right ways to save a marriage. There are many people who hurl verbal abuses at their partner and when their partner retaliates with a divorce paper in hand, they cry, “save my marriage!” First learn to respect your partner and treat him/her as you would want to be treated yourself.
Communicate to Save Your Marriage
Monday, September 8, 2008
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How to Manage Pimples and Still Be Beautiful
Saturday, September 6, 2008
Discover how you can still be beautiful with pimples by emphasizing your best features while taking steps to bring those annoying breakouts under control!
Think of some qualities yourself that you feel good about and put some energy towards them for a change!Make a list in your head or write them down.
Show off the good stuff! If you have big, beautiful eyes, show them off! What is your best feature? Eyes? Lips? Nails? Hair? If you have healthy nails, manicure them!If you have voluminous, silky hair, add hair gems to emphasize it!
Keep your skin clean and apply any treatments properly. Make sure to take extra care to wash off any make-up entirely.
Make an appointment to see a dermatologist for help in establishing a personalized treatment plan if you truly feel overwhelmed.
Remember that almost everyone has had break-outs. You are not alone!
Sweating opens your pores; after you work out be sure to cleanse and wash your face. After you are done washing your face either apply cold water to your face with a washcloth, or apply vitamin E oil, and then apply a cold washcloth.
If you start to feel really unhappy try using plain refrigerated yogurt as you would soap once every night. If used properly it will clear most acne cases up in a few days. Put some on a wash cloth and gently scrub, if you scrub to vigourusly you will scrape the tops off your pimples and make the problem even worse.
If a breakout starts to make you feel a bit insecure, remember to not put your focus on your flaws (using too much cover-up) so that they do not become the focus of others! Be sure to bring out your beauty, instead.
Try to keep your hands away from problem areas, touching the area can cause dirt to get "ground in" making the break-out worse.
Make sure and keep anything that touches your face clean. For example, if you wear glasses make sure that your frames and lens are cleaned regularly.
But remember- the easiest way to get rid of pimples is: cleanse your face in the morning when you wake up and at night when you go to bed! (Even if it appears clean!)
Pin back or grow out your bangs. The oil from your hair and the constant rubbing aggravates the problem more than it disguises it.
Stop consuming high-caffeine foods and beverages. These make you sweat more often, and more profusely.
High levels of stress often can cause breakouts. Stay relaxed and calm.
Eat yogurt, it has bacteria that help your digestive tract to function, which, in turn, allow your body to disperse nutrients more effectively. This improves both your overall health, and your acne.
Use gentle cleansers, products like Clearasil can be very harsh on sensitive skin.
How you feel about your outward appearance can wreak havoc on how you feel about yourself inside and vice versa. Start practicing putting your best self forward so you can feel good about yourself on the inside and out!
Don't pick at the spots it can cause them to get infected and they will take longer to heal.
If you have a spot that you absolutely must open (to relieve the pressure)only pop it using the ends of your fingers, using nails and needles will lead to even worse scarring!
Do not use peppermint (or mint in general) based cleansers, mint irritates skin and can make things worse!
Exfoilaite more then 3 times a week can be very hurtful to your skin and can ruin your skins natural barrier to bacteria!
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Heal Acne Fast and Naturally
You see the movie stars and singer. Their skin is acne free. Even your friends have clear skin! Do you suffer from acne, and wish you didn't have any, but don't want to waste money on expensive products that don't even work? Here's how to destroy acne within a few weeks, and do it naturally, with things around your house.
Get the things you need. You will need a face cloth, a hand towel, soap (bar or liquid), and working water (hot and cold).
Wet down your face cloth with hot water. The water has to be so hot, the face cloth steams. Be careful not to burn your hands, though! When the face cloth is steaming, wring out the water, and place it on your face. This will open your pores. Repeat this process twice. Make sure your eyes are closed, unless you enjoy pain.
After opening your pores, quickly wash down your cloth again with hot water and put soap on it. Then scrub your entire face, but concentrate on the infected areas. Let the lather rest for about 40 seconds. While waiting, wash your cloth down again with hot water thoroughly.
Wipe the lather from your face thoroughly. Make sure none is left over.
Rinse the cloth with cold water. Make sure the cloth is VERY cold. Then place it on your face. This will close your pores. Dry your face with the towel, but don't rub, just dab the water off.
Now you're done! DO this process 3 times a day. Once in the morning, then in the middle of the day, and before bed. Your face will get noticeably clearer quickly!
Avoid touching your face.
Avoid eating greasy foods and chocolates.
Drink lots of water! It flushes toxins from your body and helps clear your skin.
OPTIONAL : Exercise a bit more. It can really help releive stress and acne.
Rub your face with baby powder before bed and in the mornings. This dries up blemishes and help prevent face invaders.
If your skin doesn't clear up in a day, don't worry! It doesn't mean the method isn't working. Skin doesn't clear automatically just because you've washed your face once.
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Friday, September 5, 2008
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Break Up
When you decide to end a relationship, what follows can be a difficult, sometimes torturous series of events, especially if the feelings are deep-rooted, circumstances are intertwined, and the break-up isn't mutual. It may be one of the hardest things you ever do, but otherwise, an unhealthy and unhappy relationship can drag on for years and perhaps even decades. Here's how to be strong and end it now.
Think about why you are breaking up with this person. If you are simply upset with your partner, you should consider talking about what upset you and focus on resolving it, rather than ending the relationship. But if this same issue has already been discussed, yet nothing changes and you keep feeling unsatisfied, hurt, or betrayed, then breaking up might be the only way to end the pattern. Your partner will ask you why you want out, and you should be prepared with answers. Before having "the talk" that ends the relationship, do your best to articulate the reasons you are breaking up. If you have trouble remembering examples during emotional discussions or arguments, write your reasons down in advance. It may help to talk this over with someone you trust, or with a counselor.
Plan out how long you are willing to spend breaking up. The actual conversation in which you break up with this person can last a lot longer than it should, especially if your partner is devastated or completely surprised by your decision. It'll be much easier for you to stick to your guns if the conversation doesn't drag out. Expect to spend at least one hour breaking up, and longer if the relationship lasted a year or more. You may even want to arrange an appointment with a friend in a neutral location so that you can say "I'm supposed to meet John/Jane at the restaurant in fifteen minutes, so I have to go now."
. Break up in person. It is easier to break up with someone if you don't have to look the person in the eye, but it can also be interpreted as cruel and cowardly. Unless you are a long distance away and choose not to wait until you see the person again, don't break up by phone, e-mail, or through an instant messenger system. And don't even think about breaking up with someone by pulling a disappearing act, even if it's just by suddenly eliminating contact with the person. The lack of closure can be psychologically damaging.
If you don't live together, break the news at his/her home and in private. They'll want to feel safe enough to respond emotionally--no one wants to be broken up with in public or near family and friends, and risk bursting into tears, or be forced to bottle up all those emotions. While you can break up with them at your place, making someone go home after getting news like that will be difficult, and could make them more bitter. If you are at your partner's home, you can leave after you feel you've made your decision clear.
If you live together, breaking-up will be particularly problematic and stressful; you should have a place where you can stay until the person you've broken up with digests the big change. You can either move all of your stuff while they're not home and then break up when they come home and notice, or break up and leave with some of your things with the intention to come back when things have calmed down to get the rest of your belongings. Either way will be very difficult for the other person, but only you know what's best for your situation.
Break up calmly. If you say the dreaded words "We need to talk", your partner will immediately know what's going on, and that's not a bad thing. You don't want to blurt out "We need to break up" out of the blue, or worse, when you're in an argument. You need to approach the whole thing calmly and peacefully, with a sense of resolution. Sit down with your partner and let him or her know that you've decided to end the relationship.
Expect any or all of the following reactions.
Questioning -- He or she will want to know why, and whether there was anything he or she could have done to prevent the breakup. Answer the questions as honestly as possible.
Crying -- The other person will likely be upset, and it will show. You can comfort him or her, but don't allow yourself to be manipulated into changing your decision.
Arguing -- He or she may dispute anything you've said during the breakup, including examples you used in your reasons for breaking up. Don't get dragged into a fight, and don't split hairs. Let your partner know that arguing isn't going to change your decision.
Bargaining or Begging -- He or she may offer to change, or to do things differently in order to preserve the relationship. If the person didn't change when you've discussed your problems in the past, it is too late to expect him or her to truly change now.
Lashing Out -- Whether it's as simple as saying "You'll never find anyone as good as me" or as scary as saying "I'll make you regret this", he or she is usually just trying to make himself or herself feel better. Threats of physical harm, however, are serious and should not be ignored. If you feel that your safety is at risk, stay calm and leave quickly.
Distance yourself. It'll be difficult, but don't call them, don't go places where you know they frequent, and make yourself scarce. Take the time to reflect on your situation and learn more about yourself. Do all the things you've ever wanted to do, that you wouldn't have done if you were still with this person. Now is the perfect time to focus on those missed opportunities. Your ex may try to get in touch, but wait a while (some people suggest six months) before resuming contact, if at all. You felt close to this person at one point in your life, and you will probably always have a soft spot for him or her, but it's time for both of you to move on.
If you are sure you want to break up with somebody, it is best done sooner rather than later. However, if your partner has had a particularly bad day already, you may want to consider waiting for a better moment. Breaking up with them when they are already down will make the break-up much harder for both of you.
While honesty is the best policy, you may want to focus on the fundamental issues destroying the relationship and not nitpick on the little annoyances that drive you mad. Those annoyances are usually symptoms of the underlying problems--we're far more likely to get annoyed, irritable, and frustrated when we know the relationship isn't working out.
Never break up in the heat of the moment. If the relationship is already broken beyond repair, that won't change once the argument is over and the anger has passed. Break up with you're both calm and can talk it over peacefully. That's when you have the best chance of closure.
Never threaten that you will break up with your partner. If you have problems or concerns, work through them or break up. Threats will only make a relationship worse and their impact tends to diminish with repeated use.
Never use e-mail to end a relationship. E-mail might be perceived as a "non-confrontational" way to break up but it adds insult to what will likely be injury for the other party. An e-mail breakup also speaks poorly about the character of one who uses it for such a delicate task.
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