How to Be Happy Despite Solitude

There are a number of reasons one may find their self living in solitude, from being shipwrecked on an island, to taking a job in a remote location. Whereas there are many ways to alleviate a night or even a week being alone, solitude is associated with long-term isolation and is more difficult to address. Sometimes life leaves us with no one around to share conversation and comfort, but that doesn't mean one must exist unhappily, if one is able to adjust to the situation.

Look at the reason for the situation which puts you in solitude, and do not give up finding a solution which allows you to return to a life among people. One such circumstance is Agoraphobia, the fear of open spaces, which can literally render a person unable to leave the confines of their own home, effectively creating a solitary life. Others are what are known as the "shut in", who because of medical or physical conditions are unable to go out even to the local market or local church. These may be able to benefit from medical help and social services, but there is still some amount of solitude to be dealt with.
Find hobbies and pursue them. These may not be suitable for every situation, but with the host of possibilities, there may be some that will help fill hours with enjoyable activities. Learning to knit, sew, crotchet, or macrame are crafts that can fill hours productively, as can painting, drawing, or writing.
Listen to music. Music has long been recognized as a medium to give emotional boosts when a person is in a dark or gloomy mood, and with the many sources which music can be accessed, from online, to radio and satellite, there is unlimited selection almost anywhere on the globe. Find a genre of music that suits your taste, and don't just listen to it, but learn it, emerse yourself into it.
Read. This is the obvious, and with a good novel, you may be alone in the room, but you can feel yourself transported to strange and wonderful worlds beyond imagination, filling hours upon hours with adventures. If you are not able to read, there are thousands of titles available on audio books, and they can be delivered by mail either from retail sources, or from exchanges, a much less expensive option.
Subscribe to periodicals that focus on topics you are interested in. There are dozens available for most topics, from gardening to fishing, crafts, to travel. There are also lots of "E-zines" online, many of which are free to the user.
Visit chat rooms, discussion groups, or other internet sites that interest you. You may find hundreds of friends who share your circumstance, and many close friendships develop between people who will never meet in person, living thousands of miles apart.
Write in a journal. This may appear to be a way of talking to yourself on the surface, but then, you can do that, if you are living in solitude anyway. Writing your ideas, thoughts, and feelings in a journal will keep you verbal when there is no one else around to talk to, and going back and reading what you have written is a way of looking at yourself from a different vantage point, helping to give you a broader perspective on what you are thinking at any particular time.
Keep your resources and daily needs accounted for. Solitary living means not having anyone else to turn to if your resources fail, and no one to borrow basic supplies like food and toiletries from in the event you run out.
Consider a pet if you are able to maintain one. Depending on the cause and nature of your solitude, you may not have access to veterinary care and food for a large dog or other conventional pet, but there are other options that may have simpler upkeep. If you are unable to care for a pet at all, you may still be able to feed wildlife or birds in your situation, and watching these can give some solace to your solitude.
Exercise if you do not have enough normal activity to keep your strength and health up. Make a regimen of regular exercise a part of your daily life, within your ability and the resources available to you. Unless you are bedridden or some other way impaired, you should at least be able to do some stretches, perhaps sit-ups, walking, or riding a stationary bike.
Look after yourself. Keeping your grooming and hygiene at a good level will help your self esteem, and thereby increase your level of happiness. Dress as well as you are able, brush your hair and teeth twice daily, and pamper yourself in other ways you may think of.
Eat healthy foods. Being alone offers the temptation of eating whatever you like, when you like, since there is little in the way of accountability. That is no reason to neglect yourself by poor diet. If cooking meals seems like too much trouble for one, then only cook occasionally, freezing portions for later use. Keep what ever fresh fruits and vegetables you have access to around for snacks, and treat yourself to these as often as you like.
Watch television. This is an obvious outlet for relief from being alone, but even in this technological age, it is not available everywhere, or to everyone, and it is not a cure-all in itself. Still, there are movies, sports, news, and all manner of entertainment where there is access to it, and if you have electrical power, you may at least be able to watch movies on DVD or other media if broadcast television does not exist where you are.

Keep a regular schedule. Go to bed at a regular time, and wake at a regular time, to help keep your body in "tune" with natural cycles of sleep and waking.
Keep your environment neat and pleasing to your eye. Keep rooms brightly lit when you are in them.
Keep windows open for lots of fresh air if the weather is cooperative and you are indoors for extended periods for whatever reason, and even if the weather is not suitable for this, keep the curtains open and the shades up to let lots of natural light in.

Living in solitude means being resourceful, you must keep some contact with the "outside" world in the event you require help in an emergency.

Be Confident in Starting New Things

Everyone is a little shy at first when starting something new. But with a little help, you can get over your fears.

Before you start your new activity, do some soothing exercises to calm your nerves. For example, write down all the things you have done or are looking forward to. You could write about a vacation coming up, or getting your crush to like you, etc. Put these on a scrap sheet of paper and put them in a pocket or bag.
Meditate. Sit in a comfy place where you have had previous experiences with something good. Throw open a window, close your eyes and get in a comfortable position. Meditation does not mean saying "om." It means relaxing.
When you arrive at your destination, make a good impression. You want other people thinking that you are a kind person. You can do this by Saying Hello to people who seem to want to be friends. Remember to smile a lot, too.
Just enjoy yourself! Time will fly by!


If you can't seem to have a good time, then try talking to the owner or your parents about stopping. You shouldn't do any activities if they're not fun.

Don't go overboard when making a good impression. You'll scare people!

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Manage Your Credit Cards

Here's how to learn more about items billed to your credit card statements, with some common sense tricks to help you.

Review your credit card statements regularly. Online banking can assist you with viewing statements every day if needed.
Call the merchants first if you see any charges you don't recognize. You can usually find merchant names and phone numbers through a Google search. If you still cannot identify the charge, you can always submit a dispute form to your credit card bank. Please note that for all Visa cards, for unauthorized charges the credit card must be shut down and a new card issued in order to do a chargeback, so make sure you check all avenues with the merchant before disputing.
Always use common sense. If making reservations (hotels, airlines, rental cars) or placing orders over the phone, you are responsible to ask about their cancellation and refund policies before giving your credit card numbers. Ask them to fax you an invoice for any over-the-phone quotes or deals you make verbally. If they bill you more on the credit card and you have no paperwork to back it up, the credit card company cannot assist you.

Know that any merchant that is given permission to bill you monthly you must contact you directly to cancel. Keep dates and confirmation numbers on file.
Understand that closing your cards or reporting them lost or stolen does not stop preapproved charges from posting. Credit card companies cannot stop merchants from billing your card, but you do have dispute rights as long as you have paperwork to back the disputes up.

Always check the terms and conditions of every web site on the internet before giving them your credit card number to place an order. A lot of merchants' return or refund policies cannot be overriden by the credit card companies. Any time you cancel with a merchant, always get cancellation confirmation numbers and mark the date on your calendar.

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