Cheer up a Friend After a Breakup

"I've been dumped." No one wants to hear that from their best friend. Want to know how to make them smile?

Let them get all their anger out. Let them cry and sob. Let them punch pillows.
Be totally on their side and say that it is the other person's loss and they're not worth it, they're better off without that person, they always deserve better, etc.
Do something spontaneous that will make them laugh. For example, make a "get lost in the hall and meet your ex" survival kit. Include things that will make them laugh.
Encourage them to think about the positive aspects of their break up - e.g. - more freedom, the chance to meet a new person for a fresh and exciting relationship, more money to spend on themselves, nobody to answer to.
Tell them that many great works of art have been born out of pain and anguish - especially the kind of pain and anguish delivered upon us by our boyfriends/girlfriends. If they're not creative then suggest that they become creative in order to express the way they feel. Talking is good - and a form of creativity - but it's good to write, sing, paint...if they have any hobbies, passions then suggest they immerse themselves in them for a while. There's nothing better for the healing process than feeling that the blow you've suffered has actually had a positive outcome.
Exercise works wonders. Just think how your ex will feel when he sees your new impressive physique - and maybe even the attractive new boyfriend/girlfriend you have as a result of that physique...but what's even more important is the proven positive effect that exercise has on the body and mind. Take your friend to the gym.
Discourage them from thinking that all women/men are evil or fickle. Not everyone is evil, when just one person hurts you.
Discourage them from feelings of guilt. At some they're bound to start thinking 'I was a bad person,' or 'I'm a bad person - that's why he/she dumped me. Why did I say that? Why did I do that? I'm scum. I should call him/her up and let them know that I've finally come to terms with my own vile nature - maybe if he/she sees that I'm no longer in denial they'll believe I'm willing to change...' This is a bad idea. If they've dumped you - they're probably no longer concerned with whether you can change or not. And besides - they've heard it all before...right? Your friend may feel that they've finally learned their lesson - and that's a positive thing - but tell them they should try and apply what they've learned to a new relationship.
Remind them that they're likely to start putting their ex on a pedestal, focusing only on the good stuff and filtering out the bad. Nobody is perfect, and no relationship is perfect - so helping your friend focus on or remember those imperfections will keep them grounded in reality.
Recommend they connect to the net and begin re-connecting with their friends.
Tell them it's a well known fact that time always heals. The thought that their suffering will naturally come to end one day can speed that process along.
Remind them that the sooner they forget the past and start building a positive future based on today the better.
Give your friend a hug.
Make them laugh. To put a smile back on their faces, you just need to exercise some humour. There are different ways to achieve this, one such method is to show them mo-liu, low-b and lame things like articles on the 'WikiHow' site. (If that fails, we suggest you to vandalise the page for their sake. For immediate effect, bring up topics such as rubber duckies, red tricycles, kites stuck on a tree, or giraffe poo.. Oh, hello Edith!)


* Give the ex the silent treatment and let them know that you think they totally messed up.
* Comfort your friend every time they seem down

* Don't hassle them too much - thinking that the worst thing for them is to be left alone. Ok - if they’re suicidal they need help - but if they’re not then you need to give them a bit of space to help that natural healing process take place. Let them know you're there for them if they need you and give them a call every now and again to see if they want to meet up - but don't go thinking you're going to rescue them from despair with nothing more than that fine personality of yours.

Start Walking For Exercise

Walking is an exercise that can be accomplished by almost anyone.

Set your expectations reasonably. If you have been sedentary for a long period of time, you will want to start out slow and go only a short distance.
Find a good place to walk. Many times you can just walk around your block, but what do you do if the terrain is too steep, curvy, or just isn't what you're looking for? There are some easy solutions. You can go to your nearest high school; many schools allow town residents to walk the track when not being used. Take your car to a park if it's too far away to walk; parks are often flat and very peaceful.
Pick an easy first walk. Make sure that no matter how far you get from your starting point, you are able to get back there. Walking on an oval track no more than a quarter mile around should be perfect.
Pay no attention to how far you walk. It matters more that you walk for a longer period of time. Faster and farther walks will come later.
Set a time. When you first start walking, decide how many minutes you will walk. Choose a length of time you know you can make. Do not worry about how short that period is. Just keep moving until you reach it. 2-5 minutes each day is a good start. That time will increase from week to week.
Increase your time. Each walk, increase your walking time by thirty seconds to one minute until you are able to sustain a 10 minute walk. Again, do not fret if you can't go longer than the day before. Set the goal and keep at it and you will reach it faster than you think. After reaching 10 minutes, the increases may take a bit longer; however, try to increase your time by 5 minutes each week.

Work on speed and difficulty. After you are able to walk 45 minutes a day, you can work on speed and difficulty. Try moving off of the oval and onto the city streets: You will encounter hills and declines, and that will increase the difficulty of your walk.
Determine your target and maximum heart rate. See "How to Calculate Your Target Heart Rate ". If you are under your target heart rate (THR), you need to increase walking speed for it to be beneficial; if you are above your THR, decrease your walking speed. Again, weight loss and aerobic health will come through sustained effort, not through increased speed or distance.
9. Try interval training. Walk at an increased rate for one to two minutes, then slow back to your normal rate for two minutes. Every day or two add an interval until you reach your desired total time, including rest periods. As you become more physically fit, reduce your rest periods until they are down to a minute or less.

Buy a pedometer to count how many steps you have walked each day. Write down the number of steps you have taken every night, and try to "beat" that number the next day. Walking programs often suggest 10,000 a day You can even organize yourselves into teams, perhaps with co-workers and have competitions to see which team walks the most steps over 5 weeks. Many Cell Phone Providers now offer a downloadable pedometer for GPS capable phones for a small one time fee.
Swing your arms as you walk.
In the beginning it is not necessary to warm up, however once you really start to put stress on your legs, you should participate in some light stretching.
Walk with a good posture. Stand completely straight, put your shoulders back, and take long strides.
Try to walk no less than 3 times per week. Walking 7 days a week for more than a few miles is too much.
On weekends or holidays, try to increase your walking time to an hour or more. On some walks, try interval training by walking much faster for 30 to 60 seconds, then going back to your normal speed.
Be sure to make notes about your walk: note your route, the weather; homes you appreciated; animals, wildlife or plant life you observed; and the thoughts and feelings you experienced. Keep them in a log along with your maximum heart rate, target heart rate, and the most time you've spent on a walk.
Try using an iPod or other MP3 player to add entertainment to the walk. Books on tape make the walk go by faster and you may want to walk longer.
When you are able to get, and stay, on your target heart rate, you will want to cool down a bit at the end of your walk. If you have been able to stay in the target rate for 20 minutes or so, spend about 5 minutes at the end of the walk trying to bring your heart rate back to where it was pre-walk. Slowing your pace down and doing some more light stretching can accomplish this. Do not stop walking to slow your heart rate in a cool down. It defeats the purpose of a cool down.
You might find ways to incorporate walking into your daily routine if you can't find the time to go walking for the sake of it: take the stairs instead of the escalator or the lift; walk to the shops if they're close by; if you visit a friend who doesn't live too far away, leave the car at home. It's surprising how much difference it can make when you regularly climb a few flights of stairs and take frequent short walks.
Remember that we live in an age that requires little physical activity. Now that we no longer toil in the fields or even (in most cases) factories, the avoidance of physical effort is not a gain, it's a loss. We should take advantage of all the small opportunities we can use to keep our bodies in shape, such as using the stairs instead of the elevator or escalator.
Many people recognize the local mall as an excellent place to walk for exercise -- safe, fun and climate-controlled.
Walking may cause cramps. If a cramp occurs, place your hands on your head and begin breathing through your nose and out your mouth at a slow steady rate. Be sure to bring a water bottle with you.
If you drive, park your car a block or two away from where you live, that way you have to walk to or coming back.
Wear comfortable clothing and sturdy, supportive athletic shoes.
Walking is a very good stress management technique in addition to being good exercise. If you practice active abdominal breathing during each step, you will benefit even more.

Before undertaking this or any other exercise program, be sure to check with your doctor, especially if you haven't been physically active in more than 6 months.
Be prepared for your walk. Take water with you. Also take along a whistle in case you get into trouble with dogs or unsavory people. Carrying a cell phone is also a good idea.
If you are walking and become short of breath, slow down or stop. Ask for help if you need it.
Don't carry weights with you as you walk. This extra weight throws your gait out of balance.
Be sure to wear proper footwear. Sandals, flip-flops, and even fashion athletics do not support the various muscles, tendons, and joints in your foot and can therefore cause strain and injury.
Although using an mp3 player or radio can make your walk more interesting, it also makes it difficult to hear things around you, including potential hazards such as oncoming traffic, would-be attackers, and animals. If you like to listen to music or books while you walk, keep the volume moderate and be aware of your surroundings.
Wear white clothing and reflective fabrics if you will be walking at night. Don't assume that drivers are paying attention or that they can see you after dark.

* Drink water during walks of ten minutes or more whether you feel thirsty or not. (Yes, this applies to cold weather and warm weather.)
* Good, comfortable walking shoes or sneakers and thick socks. If you have thin socks you may get blisters.
* A cellphone for emergencies.
* A whistle to call for help should you run into trouble of the criminal type.
* A hat and sunblock on sunny days.

Kiss Goodnight

The "good night kiss" is one of the most romantic and exciting experiences when a couple are dating. If you've felt chemistry and you've had a great time, you're probably thinking about the good night kiss - Should you kiss her? Is she ready for it? When's the right time? Should you wait?

Walk your date to her front door or as close as she'll let you get, before deciding what to do next.
Assess the situation and her behaviour; you'll need to do this quickly as you don't want to wait around forever. If she's only taken you to her front gate or doesn't even let you get that far, take it as a bad sign and maybe a good night kiss isn't such a great idea. If she has her key out of her purse, in the front door lock and you're saying goodnight to her back, this too is a bad sign. And then there's the dreaded cheek turn, where as you're going in for the kiss, she turns her head. If she's really disgusted by you, she'll turn her head so far you won't even get the cheek - you'll get the ear. Other red lights can be lips clamped or a stubborn refusal to make eye contact. Only make a move if you feel all is right.

Remember that in every goodnight kiss scenario, you've got a limited "Window of Opportunity" to make your move. Create an "awkward pause" in the conversation. Studies show that people are uncomfortable with gaps of silence in conversation, so fill it with a smile and get ready to move in for a kiss.

Keep it simple, especially if this is your first kiss with your date - that means no tongue, no special moves; just turn your head slightly to the side, lean in slowly and rock her world! You can place a hand on the small of her neck if you wish. And there it is, a successful goodnight kiss.
Repeat if desired, or if you feel your date getting into it. This may lead to being invited inside, but don't count on it.
She will also really like it if you keep it locked on her cheek for about 3 seconds not 3 minutes

If you want to be extra cute you could even kiss her hand or forehead, but be wary of the forehead kiss as some girls find it patronising or granddad like.
When you're walking away, give a little glance back - chances are she'll be watching you go.
Add comments such as "Tonight was amazing" or "I hope we can do this again sometime (And show her that you MEAN it" to make her feel special.
If you feel her trying to move away or say 'No', let her, then ask her if she's ok. If she tells you "nothing" or has to think about it just say goodnight (This usually means that she doesn't feel comfortable enough to tell you about it). It may be too early for her. Never force a girl into any situation she doesn't want to be in.

Do not kiss her on the lips if you know her family is watching. She'll go in and they will yell.
Don't shove your tongue down her throat. This is meant to be sweet. Keep it simple!
Don't just go around kissing anyone, anytime! You may be charged with sexual assault if you make an advance on an unwilling girl.
Do NOT kiss her goodnight (or first kiss her) in front of your friends or hers. Especially not yours. They will make fun of you(though granted that's only because they are all jealous).

Be the Best aunt & Godmother

Being the best aunt and godmother to your niece or nephew can make you feel like you're a person the child can look up to. You can be somebody to tell everything to and ask for tips or advice as they grow. You will feel that you are doing something that not many people can do.

Offer to babysit often.
Play with them when they want to.
Play what they want to play.
* It will most likely be something their parents don't have time to do with them, like playing barbies, or with playdough.
* Get down to their level, sit on the floor with them, play like your a kid too.
Buy them toys and candy.
* But teach them not to expect gifts all the time. They should know the best gift is your time, attention and love.
* If you buy them a lot of candy, be sure to encourage good dental hygiene.
Have sleep overs.
* Let them stay up late.
* Eat junk food for dinner.
* Do fun interactive stuff together like crafts or games.
Take them to parks, play grounds, and other fun places.
When they get older, listen to them when they have a problem.
Give advice especially when needed.


* Your money may run out if the child asks for too much, so don’t be a pushover.
* If the child is an infant, get ready to be awake late at night when babysitting.
* If you aren't babysitting but spending time with the kids at their parents home, give the parents a break and take them outside or do a quiet activity. You might get a little special from the parents

* The parents may ask you to babysit when you don't feel like it -- know when to say no

Be Amazing and Fit after 50

Small steps any woman (or man) can take to slow the aging process and live a healthier life

Exercise --The simplest and easiest way to take one necessary step toward being fit and fabulous is to exercise. I’m not talking about running to the gym five days a week, pumping iron or cycling until you drop. I’m talking about something simple that you can do at a moderate level every day. I’m talking about walking. Walking is easy to do and requires no equipment except a good pair of shoes, and can be done anywhere and at any time. A brisk pace for 45 – 60 minutes for 5 to 7 days a week can reduce fatigue, promote weight loss, lower blood sugar, blood pressure and cholesterol, and prevent osteoporosis, diabetes and heart problems. Moderate exercise is also a de-stressor and muscle builder.

Quit Smoking--Smoking is the number one preventable cause of aging and illness in older adults. Excess deaths from cigarette smoking increase with age. Sixty percent of all smokers began by age 13. For them, aging begins at 13 and not at 30 as in non-smokers. Tobacco is the only product that when used as intended can and probably will kill you. You can add memory loss to the long list of health problems that come from smoking. Smokers may have twice the risk of getting Alzheimer's disease as do people who have never smoked. Stop now — it's never too late. If you quit smoking now, you can still reduce your risk of memory loss later in life.The fact that people who smoke develop wrinkles at an earlier age than their non-smoking counterparts seems to be due degrading enzymes A study from Ohio State University shows that using hypnosis to quit smoking is 30 percent effective in men and 23 effective in women. .. "Women seem more likely to smoke in response to stress or anxiety than men do.”

Manage Stress--Stress can make you sick and look older than your years. If you are under stress it shows in you face, in your attitude and in your sleep habits. Stress is the primary cause of insomnia, and without adequate sleep, you age much faster.
Self hypnosis is an excellent way to de-stress your life. Simply distressing affirmations are available at Achieve-With-Hypnosis.

Get Enough Sleep--Most people do not get enough sleep! For nearly 40% of Americans, this time is usually filled with tossing, turning, and frequent waking. These are textbook symptoms of insomnia, the most common sleep disorder in the United States. Seven to eight hours of sleep of night is optimum, and most of us don’t get that. Without adequate sleep, when the body rejuvenates, you awaken tired, with dark circles and puffy eyes. Wrinkling Is another sign of not getting enough sleep. Sleep can be enhanced by several different activities: adequate exercise, proper eating habits, weight loss,limiting alcohol and quitting smoking. Without doing these things, sleep can be a commodity that can not be bought at any price.

Make Diet Changes--Eat a diet rich in fruits and vegetables. Many of these contain antioxidants — substances that protect and nourish brain cells. And antioxidants may help prevent cholesterol from damaging the lining of your arteries and slowing blood flow to your brain. Foods high in antioxidants include colorful fruits and vegetables, such as oranges, berries, broccoli, spinach, carrots, sweet potatoes and tomatoes. Supplement your diet with high quality vitamins, herbs, and minerals.