Laws Of Attraction

It's one of life's eternal questions: Why do people fall in love?Isn't a mystery.

Wouldn't it be great if there really was such a thing as a love potion? Take a few sips, and magically, potential dates appear everywhere. Without a true love potion, we're resigned to attracting future mates with nothing but our own charming personalities--and perhaps a few pointers from self-help books, late-night infomercials, and reality TV shows.

Can those things even work? What makes one person fall for another? And can we change ourselves to alter the number of people who are attracted to us? According to experts, attraction is full sensory experience. It's not just enough to look or talk a certain way; to attract a potential mate, you must electrify all five senses. Here are some of the clues that have been identified.


Sight
Perhaps the most obvious component of attraction, being visually attracted to someone involves more than just their appearance.When people are already in loving, committed relationships, they find attractive members of the opposite sex less appealing than those who are not in relationships. Study subjects who had recently thought about their partners were also less likely to remember attractive physical characteristics of other people.

Visual cues can be helpful during flirtation as well.55 percent of our impression of another person is formed by their body language. Certain movements are perceived favorably by others. Mirroring, or subtly mimicking the other person's gestures, is an effective way to make people feel that they can trust you.


Sound
38 percent of our impressions come from the tone, speed, and inflection of the other person's voice. What they're actually saying accounts for only 7 percent. Laughing or giggling is often another way of conveying positive emotions toward another person.We often laugh at mundane statements that are not funny. Laughter is a social tool that evolved before humans could speak, they speculate, so even modern humans feel bonded by laughter.

Perhaps our attraction to someone with a pleasant voice is connected to their physical appearance, as well. People who were rated to have "attractive" voices were also more likely to be physically good-looking.


Smell
Although the allure of scent is not quite as dramatic as cologne and deodorant commercials would like you to believe, chemicals known as pheromones play a role in attraction. The scent of pheromones that are given off by an ovulating woman (when she is typically most fertile) is more attractive to men. Women, however, look for a different type of scent. Women who smelled men's unwashed T-shirts preferred the odor of men who had immune systems that were different from their own, suggesting that women favor a mate who is biologically dissimilar enough to have healthy children.

Although these scents cannot be controlled, other exterior odors can trigger more intimacy.The combination of lavender and pumpkin pie had the greatest impact on men's sexual arousal. The combos of doughnut/black licorice and pumpkin pie/doughnut also had an evident effect.

Touch
When flirting, women are likely to tilt their heads in a way that reveals their neck, an erogenous zone that is highly sensitive to touch. In addition, flirtatious women would "accidentally" brush up against a man they were interested in or gently tap his forearm.

Just these acts of flirtation and touching can make someone appear more attractive.

Taste

Some scientist speculate that taste is part of the reason we kiss.Remember those pheromones? Kissing is a way of "tasting" the other person's pheromones to determine if they are sexually compatible, according to A.G. Singer's study, A Chemistry of Mammalian Pheromones.

In addition, preferring the same taste, literally, of foods can make you feel a closer bond with another person. A study published in the Journal of Consumer Research found that when people who were given a sample of ice cream compared likes and dislikes afterward, the tasters who enjoyed the sample were more likely to say they could trust the recommendations of the others who were fond of it, but those who disliked the ice cream didn't think others who also disliked it could give good recommendations.

Things You Should Always Tell The Babysitter

For many parents, leaving their children with a babysitter for the first time can be a nerve-wracking experience. After all, most of us have heard a few harrowing stories about shaken babies, sitter abuse, or neglectful nannies.

But while such concerns are valid, cases like these represent only a small fraction of babysitter problems. The more common danger, is unintentional injury due to a lack of information about the kinds of problems that can arise and what to do in case of an emergency.

Sitter Safety 101
Although no one can care for your child the way that you do, there are steps you can take to ensure safety while you're away from home. To begin, choose your sitter wisely. Ask family and friends for their recommendations, and check each candidate's references carefully.

In addition, only hire babysitters who are 13 or older, as younger pre-teens may not have the judgment or maturity to handle emergencies.You should ask whether they've taken the American Red Cross Babysitter Class and, if not, encourage them to enroll.

Rather than simply leaving your child alone with a sitter the first time, consider hiring the potential candidate as a mother's or father's helper. This way, you can see how the sitter performs first, get feedback from your child, and determine whether it's a good match.

Babysitter Guidelines
Once you've found a babysitter both you and your child feel comfortable with, it's important that you provide the information they'll need in case of an emergency.

You and your spouse's full names.
Contact information where you can be reached, as well as your cell phone number.
Your child's full name, age, date of birth, height, weight, hair color, and eye color (in case the sitter and child get separated).
The phone number and address of your house, as well as directions to it.
The name and phone number of your family doctor or pediatrician.
Emergency-services numbers and the poison-control hotline number.
Location of all the exits in your house.
Location of first-aid supplies, as well as the fire extinguisher, fuse box, and flashlights.
Contact information for neighbors, friends, and family.
Special medical information, especially regarding food and drug allergies.
The time at which you can be expected home.
Your child's bedtime and bedtime routine (if your child is a baby, tell the sitter to place the child on his or her back to sleep, not on the side or stomach).
Any foods or drinks that should, or should not, be given to your child.
Any medications that should, or should not, be given to your child.
How your child should be handled if he or she misbehaves.
How to calm your child if he or she is upset (if your child is a baby, tell the sitter never to shake the child under any circumstances).
Other special instructions regarding the child, family pets, etc.

Do's & Don't

Do learn first aid and CPR.
Do keep the doors locked, even while you're outside.
Do call 911 if someone suspicious comes to the door.
Do be on the lookout for potentially dangerous items around the home.
Do keep matches, lighters, and candles away from the child at all times.
Do turn on outside lights in the evening.
Do be familiar with basic food safety, including choking and food-poisoning safety guidelines.
Don't leave the house with the child unless you have permission.
Don't talk for long periods on the phone.
Don't open the door to strangers, including delivery people.
Don't ever tell a stranger, even on the phone, that you are the babysitter.
Don't stay anywhere you feel unsafe, smell smoke, or hear a fire or smoke alarm.
Don't go outside to check on something strange, such as an unusual noise.
Don't ever leave the child alone in the bathtub, not even for a second.

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Finding Your Soulmate

A soul mate is that special person, who thinks like you, feels about things as you do, and just understands you. You each are special to each other, and can sense each others pain or happiness. Each one is more complete as a person with the other. There is a chemistry between you, that makes each day, a happier one because the other is there with you. Holding hands with each other makes you feel warm and content and complete as a person.
Meet and talk to them. Share thoughts about many things, and listen to see how they react and appear.
Find out if you both enjoy the same or similar activities, and discuss your thoughts about them.
Sense the physical as well as the mental connection between you. Listen to each other, and hold hands when walking in the mall, or the store, or in the park. If you feel that you really connect without any effort, then you have found your soul mate.
Remember, a true soul mate can sense your pain before you do, they can sense your thoughts, feelings, and seem to be a part of you, and you have to wonder, how you ever faced each day without them.
Do not confuse physical chemistry between both of you, as being a soul mate. While one can be the other, the chances are if you only feel a physical attraction, and no mental connection, they are not soul mates.
Finding a true soul mate does not happen all the time. The connection is so special and so endearing, that you will know when it does.
Don't look for qualities in a soul mate that will 'complete' you. No one else should be able to complete you, you are you by yourself. What they do instead is add to your life, and make it richer and fuller, more than anything else.
When you find your soul mate, try not to freak out. Its supposed to be!

How To Maintain Tomance

There is so much more involved in keeping romance alive than just candles, bubble baths, and foot massages. You each have to work at it in order to maintain and enjoy romance in your life. Here is how to feed the romantic fires in your relationship in a deep and meaningful way.
Tell the truth. Truth is the ultimate aphrodisiac and a great way to create connection with your partner. For example, you might say "I feel safe when I am with you" or "Sometimes I feel scared that we get so busy with other things that we forget about creating close moments together, but I really want to be close with you." Just share your true feelings and speak from your experience. If you are concealing in your relationship, you will not feel connected, so consider making truth an ongoing priority in your life.
Appreciate yourself and your partner. Appreciation means "to grow in value, or to be sensitively aware of." Take time to understand just what it is that you like about yourself, and your partner. Saying for example, "I am doing a good job as a parent by taking time to hug the kids in the morning before they go off to school." or "I really appreciate how dedicated you are to your job." Successful relationships have a 5 to 1 ratio of appreciations to criticisms, so if you really want to heat up your relationship, start appreciating!
Listen. All humans crave being seen and heard. Being with your partner, and really listening to them can be magical for you both. Often, we want to fix their problems, but it is much more powerful to listen. Saying, "Wow, I can understand you are frustrated." or "That must have been hard on you." Let your partner know you're hearing them.
Create romance within yourself first. We often try to "get" our partners to be more romantic by believing we need to change them in order to have what we want. The truth is that you are much more likely to have what you want when 'you' show up in that way. For example, create your own romantic mood--dress, put on music, prepare sensuous foods, take some time to love and appreciate yourself. It will not take long for your partner to join in the fun!
Ask for what you want. Let your partner know that you are deeply interested in spending some romantic time with them (You would be surprised at how often they are unaware of this.) Whining, demanding, and manipulating are contrary to creating romance, so do your best to ask using kind and loving words.
Bring play back into your relationship. Levity is a sexy thing. If you are stuck in thoughts of how much housework you have to do, or that you might wake the kids, more than likely you will not feel romantic. Laugh about the ways that you take your self out of a romantic mood, and soon, you will be back in it.
Speak your partner's love language. We often become confused and disappointed by expecting the other person to do such and such romantic things. Do to your partner the things they like as well as you telling them what 'you' like, want, and expect. When you fulfill their needs and desires, you will end up receiving the same in return!
Accept each other unconditionally, respect each others wishes and dislikes. Keep the mystery and fascination to each other. Love each moment as if it is the last.