How To be a Positive Influence

Optimism and a positive attitude are contagious. Those who exude a positive attitude provide inspiration and motivations to others.

Be approachable. Open yourself up to serving as a mentors to others.
Practice a positive a body language. During a conversations, smile, establish eye contact and nod attentively. Avoid standing with your arms cross in front of you.
Encourage Others to develop their strenght and follow their dreams.
Invite Others Input. When working with group , ask for opinions and suggestions.
laugh. Keep a sense of humor.
Say Thank You often with sincerity.
Be a cheerleader. When a friend or family member does something well, tell them and tell others.
Persevere. When you encounter a obstacles, don't give up. Adopt a positive attitude and keep going.

How To date a Divorce Man

If you’ve just begun dating a divorced man, you may soon realize that the “regular” dating rules don’t always apply. Whether it’s due to encounters with his ex, issues concerning his children or heavier-than-average baggage, dating a divorced man can be especially challenging. For tips on how to enjoy a fulfilling relationship with a divorced man.Read through this. And ask your self if dating a Divorce Man is really for you. Sort Through the Baggage to Decide if He’s Right for You.

In which ways is dating a divorced man different than dating a man who has never been married?

Divorced men have more baggage than never-married men. And while baggage doesn’t have to be a negative thing, it does create more challenges that you will need to be prepared for.

Well, first and foremost, all divorced men have an ex-wife. Because marriage is such a serious commitment, ex-wives tend to have more power than ex-girlfriends, even after the marriage ends. If they had kids together, she will always be in the picture, feel protective toward her kids, and feel she has certain privileges with him due to having had his children. What’s more, women without kids may be surprised by the amount of time and care that children require, which will influence the freedom the couple has. Lastly, divorce can be financially devastating. On top of the actual divorce costs and having to split up all the family assets, divorced men may have child support or alimony obligations. These factors will influence his future—and his future with you.

When dating a divorced man, is there anything in particular that women should be wary of?

Women should definitely be on the lookout for a guy who’s not yet over his marriage. He’ll talk excessively about the marriage, ex-wife, or divorce, frequently praise or badmouth his ex, and spend more time with the ex than is necessary for children or polite friendship. It’s OK if he displays these signs once in a while, but they should not occur frequently.

In your opinion, are most divorced men looking for another long-term relationship?

A: Some divorced men, especially if the divorce is recent, may be more interested in having fun than in having a relationship. Unfortunately, they may not be aware of this, or if they are, they may not share it with you. Usually after being single for a couple of years, the issues surrounding a man’s divorce — and his grief about it — will resolve itself.

When it comes to dating divorced men, are there definite don’ts?

Don’t be afraid to ask questions. Find out if his divorce is final, when he separated, if he has children, why his marriage ended, etc. Also, don’t give too much too soon. Divorced men, especially if still divorcing or recently divorced, can be needy. Never give more than you are getting.

Mothers Day

Here is a Mother's Day Poem to all Mom's Out there.






Happy Mother's Day

M - O - T - H - E - R
"M" is for the million things she gave us,
"O" means only that she's growing old,
"T" is for the tears she shed to save us,
"H" is for her heart of purest gold;
"E" is for her eyes, with love-light shining,
"R" means right, and right she'll always be,
Put them all together, they spell
"MOTHER,"
A word that means the world to us.



Happy Mother's Day

Her love is like
an island in life's ocean,
vast and wide
A peaceful, quiet shelter
From the wind, the rain, the tide.
'Tis bound on the north by Hope,
By Patience on the West,
By tender Counsel on the South
And on the East by Rest.
Above it like a beacon light
Shine Faith, and Truth, and Prayer;
And thro' the changing scenes of life
I find a haven there.

Mommies Day

Its Mother's Day a very special day for every Mom all over the world. Each and everyone of us have this special feelings/ moments on mothers day, our siblings or our kids are usually there beside you to great you a Happy Mother's Day when you wake up do something special with them. Apparently not all of us have that chances.Some Mom's are apart from thier kids for some reason , anyway. I just want to say Happy Mother's Day to every Mom out there and have a great time your kids . And make it the best.

How to cope with Impulsive Aggression

Aggression can create all kinds of problems in life.

Understand what aggression really is. Aggression is big emotion with destructive behaviors added to it. Those destructive behaviors can be directed toward oneself, other people, or things.
Learn about the emotions that underlie aggressive behavior. Emotions are a natural and healthy part of life. Even though aggression looks like anger, it's oftentimes a behavior based in fear. When someone is scared, they can quickly move into Fight or Flight mode. People who are prone to aggression are usually showing the Fight aspect of fear. Often, they don't even realize they are scared, because it looks and feels so much like anger. Fear of abandonment or ridicule are common fears in an aggressive person. These fears are so strong that it can feel to the person like they are fighting for their life, even though logically they know they're not.
Express fear and anger in healthy ways. Emotions are just energy moving through certain parts of the body. (Anger energy is located in the back, moving up the back of the neck, side of head and jaws. Fear is in the belly, and moving upwards) Breathing with the feelings, moving the body in ways that move the energy, and playing with the energy vocally are all ways to successfully move the energy up and out of the body. Even saying "I'm scared" or "I'm angry" can be helpful.
Choose to express the emotion, instead of the destructive behavior. Moving your body to move the emotion out through the body is healthy. Using your body to intimidate, punish, vent, or attack yourself or others is an unhealthy choice, and likely to lead to trouble.
Communicate about the feelings when you're aware of them. Saying "I felt scared when I saw you speaking to that guy at the party" or "I feel scared you're going to find someone you like better than me" can prevent acts of aggression, because things are being dealt with in real time.
Get some counseling or coaching to unwind the issues that underlie the fear and destructive behaviors. It is totally possible to change aggressive tendencies quickly when given the right support.