The Ring Tag

Saturday, March 28, 2009

Demcy is definitely right. This tag is so much different. It's challenging and fun. Anyway, it took me a while to post this tag, for I have to asked my hubby to take a picture of my tiny fingers :)).I would like to thank Demcy for tagging me. I had fun doing this tag and I hope I did it the right way.

Why should the wedding ring be worn on the fourth finger? There is a beautiful and convincing explanation given by the Chinese.....

Thumb represents your Parents.
Second (Index) finger represents your Siblings.
Middle finger represents your-Self.
Fourth (Ring) finger represents your Life Partner. & the...
Last (Little) finger represents your children.

Firstly, open your palms (face to face), bend the middle fingers and hold them together - back to back.
Secondly, open and hold the remaining three fingers and the thumb - tip to tip. (As shown in the figure below):


Now, try to separate your thumbs (representing the parents)..., they will open, because your parents are not destined to live with you lifelong, and have to leave you sooner or later. Please join your thumbs as before and separate your Index fingers (representing siblings)...., they will also open, because your brothers and sisters will have their own families and will have to lead their own separate lives.

Now join the Index fingers and separate your Little fingers (representing your children)...., they will open too, because the children also will get married and settle down on their own some day.

Finally, join your Little fingers, and try to separate your Ring fingers (representing your spouse). You will be surprised to see that you just CANNOT..... because Husband & Wife have to remain together all their lives - through thick and thin!!

This tag is open for a grab to all my blogger friend who are married. Enjoy doing the tag guys.

Be There for a Friend when They Need You the Most

Everyone has friends that go through tough times. When they go through these times, you want to be there for them. You want to help them. Here is the best way to.

Let them know you are there for them. You might feel troubled for them, or maybe even sad. The best thing to do is let them know that you are there for them.
They might not want to talk to you right at the moment, but that's ok. Just tell them that you will be there for them when they are ready to talk. Next you just wait for them to come around. It might be days, weeks, or maybe even months, but patience is golden. Once they come around, they will start to just talk to you. Listen, don't half listen, or pretend to be listening. That is the WORST thing you can do.

You can give them advice but be cautious on what advice you give them. The most important rule is, NEVER start talking against who ever they may be talking about. It will come around and kick you in the end. Remember, don't let them go and do something stupid, even if they say it will help them. It will just get you both in trouble. The final thing you can do for them is to be there for them. Make sure they know you care about them, and if they start to say something about doing something to themselves, tell them why you think it is a bad idea. Don't start to tell them what to do, cause they will take it the wrong way.

Make sure you are always there when needed. This is something I had to learn. Never get sucked into more drama then you can handle. Be there for them, but don't let it rule your life.

NEVER ever tell any one what they have said to you. That is not your place to do. WARNING: They might even take some of the anger out on you. They will not mean to, but it might happen. Never take any thing to personal. They might say things that they don't mean, so always keep that in mind.

Modern Family.com

The modern family can be diverse with different generations and wider relationships fulfilling the role of parenting children. Therefore when we refer to family this unit can be made up of children with the parenting role being taken up by parents, grandparents, carers, civil partnerships, friends, lone parents etc…

Despite the perfect picture families that always seem to loom over us on television, posters and bill boards, there are many more complexities and dynamics to families than all smiles and laughter. All families are different, and all families have their own issues, but with the right amount of work and determination, you can make your family life the best it can be, by developing your relationships and learning more about yourself and your relatives. No one's family life is perfect; but you can make your's good, so why not?

1. Respect your parents. Do this not just by giving them respect, but by listening to what they say and trying your best to make them happy. Realize that you may be able to choose your friends, but you're born to your family. If there's nothing you can do to please your parents, you'll be happier if you just accept it for now and focus on pleasing yourself. Making others happy is secondary to being happy yourself. And things do change over time.
2. Realize that life is not always going to go smoothly. Try to face the "ups and downs" in your family life with positive thinking and a cool mind. But your family doesn't have the right to make you miserable just because they're family. Try to get along, but if it doesn't work, let it go.
3. Try to compromise whenever and wherever it's possible. When you see that the people who you love most are happy, you will have a feeling of great happiness. You will have to compromise a lot in life; family is the first environment to begin learning this important skill, amongst people who know you best and can guide you with their reactions, thoughts and suggestions. Even the things they don't tell you become a learning experience.
4. Give occasional gifts to your family members. Surprise gifts can be great because most people love them. The best gifts tend to be the ones you make yourself, or put a lot of thought into. Also appreciated are gifts of your time; doing tasks around the house that haven't been done for a while such as painting touch-ups, restoring missing door handles etc. and clearing away clutter.
5. Be honest with your parents, but bear in mind that they don't always need to know everything. If you get along well, you can open up, but if you don't, avoiding tender subjects can keep the peace. Sometimes saying nothing can be better for a family relationship than saying everything. Family is forever. Why fight about the little things?
6. Feel free to communicate with each and every person in your family. Listen to them when they want to say something; try to be with them when they need you. Bear in mind that the needs of your family don't outweigh your own. Give them your time and love, not your life.
7. Dedicate a slot, it may be once a week or once a month in which you have a 'Family Time'. This could be anything, watching a movie together, playing a game, going out on a trip, but make sure it is something everyone will enjoy.
8. Eat together. Modern-day life makes this virtually impossible to do, however, it really does change your family life dramatically -- for the better.
9. Make time for siblings. They know you best, and they will tell you the whole truth, even when you don't want to hear it. As we grow up, our relationships with siblings may not be as strong as we think, but when you're older you may find yourself grateful for the work you put in now. Be supportive, encouraging and honest.
10. Accept that your relationship with your family depends on both you and them. If they can't meet you halfway, you will be happier if you don't spend all of your energy making all the effort.

Aside from what it said above, you have to have... patient. Compromise is the most valuable tool you have. Sometimes families are just dysfunctional. It happens. You come first.Don't put everything down to hormones. If your teenager feels reluctant to talk to you, he or she may be upset about something or being bullied. Ask if everything is okay.

If you'd like to see more about what the Modern Family website has, you can check out some of their articles if you'd like to at Modern Family.

Deal with Step Parents and Step Siblings

Maybe your parent(s) have been divorced and are now planning on marrying different people, this can add a lot of stress to your life, here are some simple ways to make this transition easier on everyone.
1. Be willing to share.
2. Understand that they are now part of your family and not an appendix to it.

If there is something that is really bothering you about a step parent then don't be afraid to talk to a counselor or psychologist, most schools have one as a member of the staff so you parents will never have to know if you don't want them to. If you do not feel comfortable calling your step parent "mom" or "dad", use his or her first name or establish a nickname but do not use "hey you" or anything else like that when you want their attention.

Talk with your parent and step parents, establish guidelines and rules, then make sure everyone sticks to them. Don't bottle up things they do that bother you and let them all out at once confront the problems as they arise. Make sure your parent knows how you feel about your step parent, in a serious situation it maybe important.

Express Yourself

Being Yourself is celebrating you, as an individual, learning to express yourself and be happy with who you are and for what you like. For some people, it's learning to love yourself, for others, it's not hiding who you are or changing things about you to fit in. Talking about what you like and really enjoy is amazing feeling. Would it be nice if there is a community or somewhere you can join to ,to talk about what you like, what you enjoy? Actually there is! In this place, you are welcome to talk about Movies, songs or anything you just heard from the radio. This is a place where you can express your feeling about anything like games. This is a community where you can find music reviews and Rock Music Reviews .

This is a web media engine where allows you to express your interest in music, movies and games. This is a place where you can voice out your opinion and you will be able to comment regarding on content, discuss about new movies,express your self why you like the certain things. This place is where you can find people that share your views on what makes a movie great, or any kind of media.

To become a member with this wonderful community, visit the link above,take a tour and create your free account. If you love to talk about things that you enjoy doing for fun or you have the talent with some certain things, then this place is the right for you, click on that link and become a member, it's free

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